Coming Out: Stepping out of the spiritual closet



I have given many public lectures, taught many workshops, stood in front of countless audience members at public demonstrations, and given many people and families individual readings over the past seven years. I have taken countless workshops with world-renowned psychics, mediums, and intuitive counselors. I have written many different blogs on many areas of spirituality and healing, and have started writing my first book. But, the one thing that I haven’t written about thus far is about coming out of the spiritual closet.


I remember as a 20-year-old, sitting in the living room with my father and stating, “You know Dad, I just have a feeling that this life is going to be hard, really hard.” He looked up at me and replied in his usual calm voice, “Well, you only have to take it one day at a time.” He was close to 40 when I was born. He had lived through the depression years, saw the end of WWII, lived with an undiagnosed bi-polar and abusive father, and knew what it was to have little and work hard. His wisdom was well-earned in his lifetime.


When my father passed away, I had not told him that I saw and spoke to angels and dead people. However, his spirit recognized right away. The day he died, his spirit spoke to me and asked me to share a personal message to my Mom and to each of my siblings. The messages were simple but direct and I did not hesitate for one moment to pass on these words of comfort. And even then, I hadn’t  told my Mom or brother or sisters that I could speak to spirit. My delivery was simple and nonchalant. They eventually found out only when people who had come to me for readings approached them and told them of the wonderful work that I was doing and how much it helped them or their family. And that, according to the angels, is exactly how they were supposed to find out!


When I look back at the time when I began to accept and develop my gift, I had Archangel Michael working with me daily. This archangel helps guide people on their life paths. He lends us courage and strength to walk our divine missions. My experience was that he pushed me out of the closet in such a way that there was no turning back. There were a few bumps in the road, but I don’t regret one moment of it!

I almost never had time to wonder how people would react to me, as I was out and helping people immediately. I didn’t have time to gather my family and friends to tell them that I was coming out. I was out and I was way too busy reaching out to as many people as possible. I was affronted a couple of times, sent a couple nasty emails, called names a couple of times , and challenged on my belief system once or twice. When your mission is to spread light into the world, you are a target! But, trust me when I say that you’ll spread more light than you will see the darkness. And the people who accept my being on a spiritual path are still in my life while those that didn’t are simply walking a different path. That’s OK. We’re all here with a different divine mission. Be accepting of that.


That being said, for many the process of coming out can be daunting. The ego can conjure up so much fear about what other’s will say or do that it can stop you in your tracks. It can diminish your spirit and make you stay in the closet for years. But the answer is simple. Some people will love you, some will find you interesting, and some will hate you. But, isn’t that the same for any profession or walk of life?


So here is what you need to know if you are walking a spiritual path and thinking about coming out of the spiritual closet:


  • Educate yourself!
    • Take classes, attend workshops, read, and most of all mentor with a professional. Mentorship is worth it’s weight in gold!
  • Take your time telling people.
    • You don’t have to run out and tell everyone at once that you’re taking a class, attending a workshop, or have started on a spiritual journey. If the time presents itself, and you feel divine guidance to do so, then do so, otherwise, don’t obsess or worry about it. And really, it’s no ones business what you choose to do.
  • Be prepared for a funny look or question.
    • Know that you only need to speak your truth.
    • Being rude is never acceptable!
    • Don’t allow someone else’s fears or criticism to occupy your thoughts.
    • Learn to “Let It Go”.
    • Being affronted is RARE!
      • This can happen to anyone in any walk of life
      • Know that it is their way of expressing their own inner turmoil onto someone else. It has nothing to do with you!
  • Be Your Authentic Self!
  • Reach out to like minds! You’re not alone!
  • Remember: You’re here to help people! Focus on that!
  •   “It’s none of your business what anyone else thinks about you!”